shityourtvtellsyou:

I wish that this was not a post that had to be made. Like, I wish that explaining why “Men Who Don’t Have to Ask” lists are a things that just should not exist was not something that had to be done but they keep happening so here I am.

No man, no matter how attractive their face is, has the right to “not have to ask.” No human being has that right, actually. If there isn’t a mutual agreement in any form of sexual activity then that is a sexual assault. No matter how physically attracted you are to that person it is still a sexual assault. Even if you are sexually attracted to that person it is a sexual assault. Telling someone basically that they are hot enough to rape you is enabling rape apologism to a whole new disgusting degree. 

Even if the person is fictional it is not okay. Season 2, Episode 3 of Mad Men, “The Benefactor”, featured a scene* with Don Draper and Bobbie Barrett where he shoved his hand up her dress and says to her, “Do what I say. I will ruin him.” His hand… was up… her skirt… as a power play. The number of people that still say that this scene was “hot” and “sexy” is ridiculous. Moreso, the number of women that say that they would have loved to be in Bobbie’s place during this scene is disturbing because his hand was up her skirt as a way to show that he is in control of the situation. Like, why would you want to be in that position? I get that Jon Hamm looks like Prince Eric and that for some reason makes too much of what Don Draper does as a character acceptable to the public eye** but does that really make it okay for him to grab your vagina without your permission? The answer is: No. Not ever. It is not something that is okay to joke about either*** because you know what, at lot of people out there will use the excuse of your kidding ways to rape others.

And I get that this is the internet and people feel that things should not be taken seriously but the thing is that they really and truly are. The outstanding number of females that accept, approve of, and participate in any sort of “Men Who Don’t Have to Ask” lists are giving off the impression that men don’t have to ask if their face is nice enough. You may think that you are speaking in some hypothetical situation that will never become real because these are celebrities so that won’t be a thing that happens in real life guyzz but creating this goes deeper than a hypothetical situation with a celebrity to be honest. There are guys out there that need that excuse that rape doesn’t really count when the person they are raping is sexually attracted to them. There are guys out there than need the excuse that you said certain men don’t have to ask. Creating that that it is okay for some people in this world to involve themselves with you sexually without your permission goes beyond silly play on the internet— it feeds into rape culture.

*Will forever be the most disgusting thing that I have ever witnessed on television, by the way.

** That is a conversation for another day.

*** This works both ways. Horrible Bosses was mostly disgusting because of the number of people who thought (and still think) that Jennifer Aniston’s character was funny because she was forcing her employee to have sex with him (because you know rape is funny when a woman does it. Especially if that woman is thought of as attractive. Ha haha ha ammirite?). I wasn’t aware that the terms “maneater” and “rapist” were interchangeable but it sure did teach me new things with all of the rape jokes!!!! Like, how disgusting whoever wrote that shit is!!!!!!!

(via rohirrims)